Wedding Courtesies 101 | From an Insider’s Point of View

RSVP.  I know us millennials are bad, bad, bad with snail mail. It’s not our thing. We’re the digital generation–I get it– but RSVP by the date on your invite damit. Couples have a laundry list of last minute tasks leading up to the wedding; Don’t be another person they have to chase after.

Ahead of time, it impacts your host’s budget and the seating layout. The day-of, it impacts the venue coordinator, back-of-house kitchen staff and service staff. Recently, one of my bride’s had an adult and two children show up who didn’t RSVP. Squeezing in three additional people at a 10-top is not an easy task. And then wanting kid’s meals too? Yikes. So yeah, support the USPS and RSVP 🙂

No cell phones or iPads in the aisle please. I’ll keep it short and sweet. This is probably every photographer’s biggest pet-peeve. Under no circumstances should you be in the aisle with your cell phone or massive freaking iPad during a wedding ceremony. I could tell you (and show you) horror stories about that loud aunt or forward distant cousin who just doesn’t get it. Be present. Be respectful. They’ve hired professionals for a reason.

Don’t talk while others are talking…. Especially during blessings and speeches.  Put yourself in the speaker’s shoes; During a monumental, thought-felt speech, would you want to get up in front of 125+ people only to have tables of people continuously talk over you? I’ve been seeing a lot of chatterboxes during speeches lately and it breaks my heart for the speaker, bride and groom.

Respect parent dances.  On the same lines as above.  It’s an important moment in time for your hosts and their parents, so be respectful of that.

Dancing circles. The last one–and one that directly impacts yours truly 😉 — when on the outside ring of a dancing circle, let the photographer in, k?!  These are cool, fun moments that should be on camera. Before you throw a ‘bow to claim your space, make sure you’re not boxing out the photographer.

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