Wedding Courtesies 101 | From an Insider’s Point of View

Wedding Invitation.

I’ll be honest, I waffled back and forth on whether to post this or not. The last thing I want my couples to be worried about is me being the wedding etiquette police (believe me, that couldn’t be further from the truth) HOWEVER, this should all be straightforward sh*t, right?! So if you find yourself walking a fine line with any of these, use this as a casual nudge and reminder to get on the right side.

RSVP.  I know us millennials are bad, bad, bad with snail mail. It’s not our thing. We’re the digital generation–I get it– but RSVP by the date on your invite. Couples have a laundry list of last minute tasks leading up to the wedding; Don’t be another person they have to chase after.

Ahead of time, it impacts your host’s budget and the seating layout. The day-of, it impacts the venue coordinator, back-of-house kitchen staff and service staff. Recently, one of my bride’s had a family of three show up who didn’t RSVP. Squeezing in three additional people at a 10-top is not an easy task. So yeah, support the USPS and RSVP 🙂

No cell phones or iPads in the aisle please. I’ll keep it short and sweet. This is probably every photographer’s biggest pet-peeve. Under no circumstances should you be in the aisle with your cell phone or iPad during a wedding ceremony. We all have that horror stories about that loud aunt or forward distant cousin who just doesn’t get it and steps into the aisle for their perfect iPhone shot. Be present. Be respectful. They’ve hired professionals for a reason.

Don’t talk while others are talking…. Especially during blessings and speeches.  Put yourself in the speaker’s shoes; During a monumental, thought-felt speech, would you want to get up in front of 125+ guests only to have tables of people continuously talk over you? I’ve been seeing a ton of this lately and it just makes me sad for the speaker, bride and groom.

Respect parent dances.  On the same lines as above.  It’s an important moment in time for your hosts and their parents, so be respectful of that.

Dancing circles. The last one–and one that directly impacts yours truly 😉 — when on the inside ring of a dancing circle, let the photographer in, k?!  These are cool, fun moments that should be on camera. Before you throw a ‘bow to claim your space, make sure you’re not boxing out the photographer. I’m little, we can share the space. ✌🏻

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